So you're ready to rage apply? Save yourself and do these things first!

Published April 30, 2023

We've all been there. You've had the last straw of your bosses lack of communication, transparency, or direction; you don't feel valued for the work you've been pouring your energy into; or maybe you're just not vibing with the job anymore. Either way, rage applying (or rage quitting) is seldom the answer, and we're here to reveal a repeatable process with the goal of identifying the root of your rage, helping you to make an informed decision on the other side (whether that's within your own organization, or outside of it).

What is rage applying (or rage quitting)?

Rage applying is when employees feel so frustrated or angry with their current working situation that they rapid-fire apply to loads of jobs (whether they're qualified for them or not) with the sole goal of getting out of their current situation. Rage quitting, similarly, is feeling the same but instead of applying employees just quit at a moments notice.

Ready to rage apply, or rage quit? Cool. But try these things first.

We fully support the moment that its time to make a career change. We get it, and we support you if that's what you've decided to do. But what's the point in blindly applying to any job that will accept you, if you don't truly get to the root of what's caused you to rage apply in the first place? Walking through these next three steps will prepare you for two futures:

  1. A future where you identify what's missing, and gain the verbiage and confidence to begin a conversation with you boss in hopes to find a way forward.
  2. Clarify around what you were missing and ways you could intentionally begin looking for them in your next position.

Either way, you've taken some time to truly reflect on what you're missing and sew intention into your action.

STEP ONE: Pause

Your reactive brain (aka: your monkey brain) is really good at making quick decisions with the ultimate goal of keeping you safe. Sometimes its right, and sometimes its wrong. Maybe it is right in this instance, but by giving your reflective brain enough time to join the convo, you help to bring facts into the picture to support your feelings (feelings are always welcome, but facts can help paint a full picture).

Give yourself a pause: one full day before you put in any applications.

STEP TWO: Know what is missing

If you don't know what is missing, you won't know what to look for in your next gig, boss, or team. Here's some questions to get clear on what you might be needing and give you the clarify on what you could start looking for in your next organization.

  1. Do I feel psychologically safe? Am I free to offer feedback in my area of expertise? Is it heard? Can I bring my whole self to work?
  2. Do I feel seen? For my strengths, skills, and expertise? Are the things I value most about myself being utilized?
  3. Do I feel connected? To the mission of the company? To the work I'm doing every day? To my boss? To my team?

STEP THREE: Talk to someone you trust

In a perfect world, you would be able to trust you boss and start a conversation with them, sharing the pieces of step two that you feel like you're missing and opening up a collaboration on whether there are steps you can work on together to fill them.

If you aren't in that situation, call up a professional mentor or close friend and chat with them. Sometimes getting to bring awareness to the situation and share frustrations helps you to get more clear on what's next.

Rage quitting or rage applying might bring you relief, but it will just be a band aid if you don't fully understand what you're needing, the opportunities for you and your boss to come together, and what to look for in your next opportunity. Take the opportunity to learn something about yourself, about what you're looking for in your next opportunity, and create clarity for your next step.

Are you a leader and looking to cultivate these conversations before they're out the door? Here's something that might help. Lead How They Need